I share my son with his father. His father and I are civil. Wesley can see us at events sitting at the same table, then at drop off's while talking like calm and civilized parents that were once together. Just last year Wesley said "Oh my mom and dad we're together once?' That made me giggle a bit, I replied yes, that's how we made you. Then Wesley and I had the most vouge conversation about when I was pregnant with him and that my belly was huge. I didn't expanded. Not necessary. Then he was asking a few more questions, to one answer. I did tell Wesley that, yes... I loved your dad very much and the love that we had for each other created you. I wouldn't have any other way. The next question of his was a little rough for me to find words for: He asked me if I was with anyone like how his dad and his step mom were. The answer I gave, I'm not ready... it'll happen randomly.
I did at the end of his list of questions let him know that his it is more than okay for your dad and your step mom to be together. We love your step mom. (I don't want to talk about Wesley's dad too much not even positive or negative, Wesley will have his own opinion about his dad. I won't even try to pay attention about that.) Yes, even though his step mom and I have a lot differences, she loves my son and I don't think she forces any views she has on to my son. I have always appreciated that. At the end Wesley will deiced with out persuasion what kind of man he'd like to be. That is what civilized parenting should look and sound like.